No seriously. If one is polite, it is taken as a weakness. If one is loving, it is taken as a soft spot. When one is independent, it is perceived to be challenging and stand-offish.
M is right. No one needs unconditional love. It is simply used and abused and slapped around.
People want conditional, lopsided, selfish kind of love and I'm better off away from all of that.
I'm not changing the way I care for those around me only because some (okay most) end up taking me for granted.
I don't want to slap people around if they're close to me. Why should I do that? I'm not uncomfortable in my skin, if I love them I love them why treat them badly. What would one do to people one doesn't like.
This rant is turning into quite the imbecile, naive expression so I think I'll stop now but seriously, is it really that difficult to have basic respect for those around one? Maybe yes for those who don't care building up fake airs about themselves. Yes. They won't get basic etiquette adhered to because they didn't rub their alpha-ness in the face of the world.
So well. Everyone can keep their love to be bashed around with themselves.
I can love the flowers, the moon, the night, the stars, the ocean and be happy with myself. At least they don't judge me as soft.
M is right. No one needs unconditional love. It is simply used and abused and slapped around.
People want conditional, lopsided, selfish kind of love and I'm better off away from all of that.
I'm not changing the way I care for those around me only because some (okay most) end up taking me for granted.
I don't want to slap people around if they're close to me. Why should I do that? I'm not uncomfortable in my skin, if I love them I love them why treat them badly. What would one do to people one doesn't like.
This rant is turning into quite the imbecile, naive expression so I think I'll stop now but seriously, is it really that difficult to have basic respect for those around one? Maybe yes for those who don't care building up fake airs about themselves. Yes. They won't get basic etiquette adhered to because they didn't rub their alpha-ness in the face of the world.
So well. Everyone can keep their love to be bashed around with themselves.
I can love the flowers, the moon, the night, the stars, the ocean and be happy with myself. At least they don't judge me as soft.
Sumbul apparently what you are giving as unconditional love is actually pretty conditional inside. You care about people you like, so don't expect everyone to be the flowers, the moon, the night, the stars and the ocean just because they respond with may be cool breeze, a good view and silence. This is the real world, you get what you give and you can't even calculate that. Har cheez ka torh hota hai!
ReplyDeleteBefore blaming someone for taking you for granted, see if you do it the same way. Treat people as you want to be treated. Don’t expect praise and appreciation. You do things for yourself because you like helping people out, not because you want them to help you later. Or don’t you?
You are human. You have emotions. You can get mad, you can be sad, you can be upset. If people know how you feel they won’t take it for granted.
Most important. Smile :)
You seem pretty jaded though I may be wrong. :) Help? Appreciation? Whoever said anything about any of that? All I speak of is affection and honest care. I have absolutely no clue where you are approaching this from but it certainly has nothing to do with my viewpoint. I have tons of great friends who value me for the unconditional, yes unconditional love I give them and keep giving them. So yes, if some out of them do take me as soft, yes it does enrage me. Perhaps the only condition I may have in mind is basic decency and respect
ReplyDeleteIf that is what makes you say it is conditional then so be it.
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